I've always struggled with the concept of New Year's resolutions. Not because I'm perfect and cannot see anything that needs to be improved upon. I just know that my resolve is buried underneath the clutter and I don't want to take the time to find it.
Right there are several things I could work on in the New Year. But I can't find my "give a hoot," either.
I'm pretty sure all of you could come up with your own list for me. No one's list would be longer than my wife's.
I'm guessing, anyway. My wife doesn't complain about me to me. Whether she complains about me to others, I wouldn't know.
It's not that she's unhappy as far as I know. She married me, after all. I like to think she knew what she was getting, but do we?
I'm sure by now, she's found a few of my eccentricities to be, um, annoying? Disturbing? I'm not so naive to think that she hasn't, but so far, knock on wood, there aren't any deal breakers.
But marriage is, as they say, a marathon, not a sprint.
Any wife of mine needs patience, tolerance, acceptance and a definite sense of humor. I'm not exactly Prince Charming, you know.
I should probably take a look at her list, or at least the first 20 pages or so, to see if there are some things I could work on in the New Year. Or the next decade. Rome wasn't built in a day. Plus, I'm pretty set in my ways by now. You know the saying about old dogs and new tricks.
We were talking about New Year's resolutions. (I'm easily distracted, which is probably on her list.)
I think we, meaning me and my wife, take each day as it comes. Maybe some people benefit from taking one day each year to evaluate their lives and set new goals. I think we do that on an ongoing basis. If there's a problem that needs fixing, we don't wait till Dec. 31 to write it down.
Our biggest problem is that we're both just really busy. It's not my intent to use this space to vet marital issues, and I wouldn't even call it that. We both recognize that our work schedules are our primary obstacle. That's not a marital problem; that's a life issue.
The resolution is a balance of efficiency and creativity. The joke in our house is that we take vacations in two-hour increments.
There's actually a lot of truth in that. Getting out of town for an evening meal or scheduling a movie night helps break up the monotony of work. Farming out chores like lawn care and auto maintenance increase efficiency.
We dine out most of the time, but my wife cooks a traditional Sunday dinner nearly every week. That adds a sense of stability and normalcy. When we dine out, we typically play Yahtzee on our phones as a way to squeeze in a little "us time" that has nothing to do with work.
These things are important to us. I don't think we need annual resolutions to make things better. We're already doing that on a daily basis.
That's not to say I couldn't improve a few things about myself. But really, where would I begin?
The point is, people should be happy, and if making resolutions help you in your pursuit of happiness, then do it. I'm already happy.
And if my wife can be happy and married to me, that shows about as much resolve as humanly possible.